Every morning, as we stepped into the world and see everything with intense beauty, our heart feels grateful; our body, full of life; our mind, at peace; our spirit, aligned and we see everyone, no matter where they are, or who they are, or what state of consciousness they are in, as an expression of flowing love.
As we accept everyone with an open mind and with an attentive heart, we consequently accept the whole range of who we are, as we see each one as a reflection of us, and knowing this, unconditional love sets in.
Often, we wonder how long we can hold unconditional love for ourselves and for others.
When we see everyone through the eyes of unconditional love, we let go of how we want them to be, of how we perceive them to be, or how they should conform to what we want, because when all of these are present, it swiftly becomes conditional.
To understand, as we go through life, we somehow become unaware of our own programming that we continuously set to ourselves (as these were conditioned to us growing up), and consequently, we set on others, and while these programming slowly penetrates and ingrained in our thoughts, it becomes part of our system and simultaneously, part of our normal daily lives.
As children, we were told what to do, not what to do, and the future consequences behind it, and as we grow up, we carry all of these conditions and beliefs and as well as we subjugate others. Anyone who crosses these, consequently, receives judgment and therefore, our conditional love.
As we face this world full of conditions, we often ask ourselves, how can we give unconditional love to those who have hurt us, or who have crossed our boundaries?
When we are exposed to certain situations, our tendency to react immediately, to defend ourselves, and to lessen the blow of pain is how we were conditioned, the shelling of the ego.
Instead to act immediately, we pause and ask ourselves two important questions:
1. Is my response coming from an act of conditional love or unconditional love?
2. What lies behind the situation? Meaning, understand the root of the situation and beyond what is being shown.
The unlearning of the unconscious conditioning and deep programming is through awareness.
We all have an autopilot unconscious conditioning and deep programming that is rooted deep with- in us and as we go along with our daily lives, we act unconsciously towards it.
We cite an example of perhaps a very familiar scenario to some of us:
You are at the grocery store and someone shouts and says, “get out of the way”, an autopilot reaction of a person who has unhealed deep programming and conditioning is to shout back, “You! Get out of the way!” (This is a common reaction to shell and protect the vulnerability of the ego)
An autopilot reaction of a person who has low self-esteem (a conditioning that he/she latched on growing up) is to say “sorry”, or probably walks away, or stands aside, and feels bad because he/she wasn’t able to defend the self and later on released it to the world as somehow this is how pain extinguished when it’s not fully understood.
An autopilot of a healed conscious person who is aware of his/her conditioning will be a smile, knowing that this person who screams is undergoing unhealed wounds that need further healing from with-in. You may ask, and how does the healed person know? Because he/she underwent the same situation but instead of reacting through an autopilot programming and the belief of “shelling” the ego, he/she deals with it internally, with consciousness and further awareness. (To refresh on dealing with this internally, we can re-read previous article about shadow-self and authentic-self)
Healing internally can be very painful, the reason why we have immediate reaction to soften the blow of pain and to shell the ego, but like any death, ego death can be very painful, but this pain brings in light and further awareness thus shifts of our consciousness– into heaven on earth consciousness.
Our next article is about diving deeper to unconditional love and how we can fully tap-in and tune-in through our step by step method of setting healthy, loving boundaries, releasing attachment, resolving conflicts, and forgiveness we give to ourselves and to others as we go along in our fun, happy, journey of our lives.
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